A lot of times, people say this as a result of the frustrations they have seen in couples who are married only in name but not in reality.
Love is beautiful and blissful if it is established in the right atmosphere. Every body can have a marriage but not everybody can have a good marriage. Few have good marriage but not all have a godly marriage.
Confusing? Let me break it down. When a marriage is not planted on a good soil, it will affect the kind of marriage planted on such ground. It is not enough to have just a marriage. You must have a good one. Not just a good one, a godly one.
A godly marriage is a marriage with God as its foundation. You don't just do things anyhow in such a marriage. God is the head. This kind of family loves God and they are after giving, to the community, children that are godly.
However, not everybody who goes to church enjoy this privilege because most homes haven't given God the charge of their homes. Some haven't gotten the blueprint of building their own home from God. This has always been a challenge as people are building marriages that do not take God into consideration.
Hence, a lot of young folks are finding it difficult to enter into such institution.
I was one of them. I grew up to know a faulty marriage. My parents were most times at each others throat due to one thing or the other and I said within me, I am not getting married.
To worsen the case, my extended family was no exception. Most marriages there are crumbling (some have crumbled already). I grew up with the mentality that marriage is a scam. Why should I get married if I know life would be made uncomfortable for me the moment I step into the so called institution?
Nevertheless, I purposed in my heart that if I finally get married, I would do all in my power to make my marriage the best. I had different ideas in my brain then. From how I will make sure I do all in my power to please my husband to living just at his command but I realised that can never be a good marriage. I would never enjoy it, I will only endure.
Hence, the resolution never to get married.
Now, I know better. After I gave my life to Christ and saw one of my Aunt's marriage, I said within myself that I want her kind of marriage?
A marriage where the husband is not always the boss. Where the wife is not a tyrant or the husband a bully. I want a home that is blissful.
Never say no to marriage because of what you've seen. Your marriage can be the best because you are exceptional.
Say Yes to marriage because you are going on a journey of enjoying heaven here on earth in your marriage. The mistakes your parents made would not be made by you if you table your case before God. Ask Him to help you build a godly home.
If you are not married yet, you have a lot to do to change the situation of things.
- Know God and love Him
- Remember you can't marry just any person.
- Don't choose a man to marry based on your own set down rules alone. Allow God to lead you.
- Marry a man who will chase God with you.
- Apply all I listed from 1-5.
In my subsequent posts, we will know more about building a godly home.
I will love to hear from you, dear readers.
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